Dear Mr. Peizer,
My mom and I have never had the best relationship. We always fight and never get along. Sometimes I feel as if nothing can be worse than our relationship. I never seem to be able to please her no matter what I do, I try to get good grades in school and participate in extracurricular activities and sports, but nothing makes her happy. She just always gets mad at me for things that I do not even understand why she is mad. After I read your book A Child Called It though I realized that I should be very thankful for my relationship with my mom.
After reading about your autobiography about you and your mother it made me think a great deal more about the relationship with my mom. I always thought that nothing could be worse than my relationship with my mom, but I was wrong. My mom does not hurt me physically at all, and when she does get mad at me it is usually because of something that I did, but I just don't want to admit it. My mom takes care of me and buys me things that I want; she bought me a car and other things and she takes me places, like to a mall to go shopping or on fun vacations. After I read your book I realized that there are a lot more positive aspects to our relationship than I realized before, my mom always tries hard to provide for me and always reminds me that she loves me.
I am much more thankful for what my mom does for me now that I realized that others have relationships with their parents much worse than mine. Reading your book also gave me a different perspective about my peers in high school and their relationships with their parents. I never thought that others could have relationships with their parents that involve their parents beating them; it just seems impossible to me. Now, when I hear about cases that involve parents hurting their children it makes me sympathize more for others and wonder what they are going through. It makes me reflect on how my mother's relationship with me is not that bad; I am very fortunate to have someone that cares so much for me.
Knowing that others are worse off than my situation makes me feel awful for thinking that my situation is the worst possible. My difficulties with my mom compared to others makes mine seem a lot less insignificant. I feel guilty for making my mom seem like such a bad person when she is really one of the best people that I know. She does not deserve to be compared to the evil people who do actually hurt their kids.
Ever since I read your book I have been trying to make a difference in children's lives that do not get along well with their parents. I try to be nicer to them and be there for them when they need someone. Whenever my friends go through a difficult time with their parents I try to always be there for them and understand how they feel. Before I read your book, I was selfish and only thought about myself and my problems, but now I try and help others to and think less about myself.
Mr. Pelzer, you are very brave and I know that in your situation, I may have not made it out. You have taught me that I need to be more courteous to my mom and think of her as a good person because she is one. You have also taught me to care more for others and their relationships with their parents then mine with my mom. Because of you, I am a better person then I was before I read A Child Called It.